DEAR ABBY: My husband and I graduated collectively from the identical highschool. This yr was our class’s fiftieth reunion.
We have now attended each reunion, and at every certainly one of them obtained the identical reactions from classmates. They at all times speak to my husband, shake his hand or hug him, however have a look at my identify tag and picture and ignore me like they did in highschool.
I’ll be the primary to confess I’m nothing to have a look at. The one individuals who spoke to me have been the lecturers and my husband. I attempted onerous to be social, however my classmates simply glared at me and walked away. One even stated to a gaggle of scholars, “The dog tried to talk to me.”
My husband and I just lately celebrated our forty ninth wedding ceremony anniversary, and I requested him why he dated and married me after I was invisible to his co-workers and classmates. He replied: “It’s all in your head!” He has seen the reactions from co-workers and classmates, but it has by no means bothered him that I’ve by no means been acknowledged.
It hurts so dangerous I lastly informed him I wouldn’t attend any extra reunions as a result of I believed after 50 years, our classmates ought to have grown up. He informed me I used to be being paranoid.
It has by no means been in my head, Abby, particularly after I prolong a hand and inform the classmate it’s good to see them, just for them to then stroll away. What’s your opinion on this?
— REALLY INVISIBLE IN MINNESOTA
DEAR REALLY INVISIBLE: I can not consider that you’ve tolerated this for 50 years. My opinion is that your former classmates lack class and compassion, and your husband isn’t any higher than they’re to have ignored their rudeness.
For heaven’s sake, swimsuit your self when that reunion rolls round once more. Skip it and do one thing that you’d get pleasure from!
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been relationship a man for 10 years. We’re each divorced with no need to get married.
We’re comfy with our residing preparations. We stay an hour and a half aside and spend a major period of time collectively at one another’s homes.
A single lady lives a couple of homes down from him, and they’re associates. Theirs is a really small, secluded lake city. Once I’m not round, they’ve an occasional drink collectively. He says it doesn’t occur usually. I’ve by no means been formally launched to her.
I’ve informed him I’m uncomfortable with this and have requested him to cease. I even advised he invite her over after I’m there. Your ideas?
— SUSPICIOUS IN ALBERTA, CANADA
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: My thought is that after 10 years, it’s time you met the competitors, if there may be any competitors.
The subsequent time you might be in that “small, secluded lake town” invite her to drop by so you possibly can lastly get to know her. Her response (and this man’s) will let you know all it’s worthwhile to know. (In the event that they react like two scalded cats, you could have motive to really feel suspicious.)
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
