DEAR MISS MANNERS: I sometimes get pleasure from having lunch at a restaurant with a gaggle of longtime pals. All is properly till the time comes once they need to take a gaggle picture, which, after all, will get posted on Fb.
I don’t put up on social media. I don’t want my life, in phrases nor images, posted. So I quietly say I’ll again out of digital camera vary, as I don’t need a image of me posted on-line.
I get seems to be like I’m from one other planet. How do I reply to those seems to be? And simply as dangerous, how do I reply to individuals who put up my picture with out permission?
GENTLE READER: Transfer to Dubai. Apparently there, you have to ask for permission earlier than taking a photograph.
Good manners would dictate the identical in our nation, however since it isn’t punishable by legislation, nobody adheres to it. Miss Manners is engaged on that.
Within the meantime, ignore the seems to be and ask your pals to take down the images. It’s they who’re being impolite, not you.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’ve been frequenting a pub for some time now. My favourite bartender may be very form, and all the time will get me my favourite drink.
I don’t drink alcohol, which she is aware of, and I be sure that to drink sufficient nonalcoholic drinks for her to earn a revenue.
The issue is, she often supplies me with free alcohol pictures. Is there any solution to cease her?
GENTLE READER: Kindly ask her to not?
Remind her that you don’t drink, however that you’re more than pleased to hitch her with pictures of juice or anything she has mendacity round — besides, Miss Manners warns, the contents of the bar mat.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: After a buddy identified how typically I discuss over different folks, I’ve been working to rein on this dangerous behavior.
In my private life, this has gone properly. At work, it has been tougher.
I’m continuously in conferences the place a colleague is so long-winded, or to this point off-topic, that if somebody doesn’t interrupt and redirect them, we aren’t in a position to end the enterprise at hand.
Virtually as typically, the individual working the assembly is in a rush and strikes on from a subject too rapidly earlier than I’ve gotten the data I want. Right here, if I don’t interrupt and ask them to again up, I’ve to schedule one other assembly to comply with up, which is annoying for everybody.
Assuming in each instances the speaker doesn’t pause, ask questions or take a breath, how can I assist information these conversations with out interrupting?
GENTLE READER: You can increase your hand. Though a bit school-ish and annoying, it’ll get the purpose throughout with out precise interruption. Or you possibly can preempt these audio system vulnerable to reciting monologues by asking if there will probably be time for questions afterwards.
However Miss Manners doesn’t fully object to asking to schedule one other assembly. Whereas inconvenient, it has the benefit of possible solely having to happen as soon as to be efficient.
