DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister-in-law “Kate” labored for me for a number of years. Final summer season, she had a child and stated she’d return to work instantly after maternity depart.
I ended up having to work additional hours with out pay. It was laborious attempting to make up for her absence.
Ultimately, I came upon that Kate had by no means meant to come back again to work. I noticed texts of her telling individuals to “keep it a secret” from me.
This previous weekend, Kate talked about that their funds had been tight, and she or he was seeking to get her job again. After what she did, I’ve completely no intention of hiring her once more.
Do I inform her that time clean or let her apply and simply not rent her? How ought to I take care of the fallout from the household?
— Household Enterprise
DEAR FAMILY BUSINESS: Your sister-in-law has burned that bridge. She can’t be trusted.
It’s best to converse to her and let her know the way egocentric and deceitful her conduct was relating to her maternity depart and returning to work. Whereas individuals do these issues generally with a purpose to get as a lot cash out of their jobs as potential, she is household. She mustn’t have taken benefit of you in that means.
Except she is your solely choice, don’t rent her again. In the event you want her, make her a probationary rent. She might want to show her loyalty. With a brand new child and the numerous challenges that may come from establishing a brand new rhythm in her life, she should make a giant effort to show herself.
DEAR HARRIETTE: This letter is relating to “Off-Limits,” who desires a boyfriend of two months to disclose the place he lives.
Your recommendation to be direct was good, however there are maybe different causes he doesn’t need “Off-Limits” to see the place he lives — possibly he lives at dwelling along with his mother and father or in transitional housing and is embarrassed about this; possibly he’s decoding the request as a option to get him in mattress, and he’s not prepared for that. In any case, these two must have an open dialog as you really useful!
— Fan of Yours
DEAR FAN OF YOURS: Good further concerns. Thanks. Sure, speaking is important!
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m writing in regards to the letter you obtained from “Off-Limits.”
My thought is that presumably the boyfriend has had an expertise with an individual that he had dated a short while changing into a stalker after they broke up. Perhaps he’s feeling it’s greatest to know somebody longer than two months earlier than he invitations them to know the place he lives.
— One other Angle
DEAR ANOTHER ANGLE: Stalkers are laborious to shake. Being protecting of your private area is sensible earlier than you let anyone all the best way in to your life.
