DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve lived in a rustic residence for the previous 25 years.
After we moved right here, our solely neighbors have been wild turkeys, deer and raccoons. Behind our home have been 20 acres of woods, which prolonged right into a cornfield. We have been remoted and beloved it.
Since then, a housing improvement has slowly been constructed round us. Final fall, a pair constructed a home behind us. Their rear deck is inside 20 ft of our property line. The again of their home has giant bed room home windows. They minimize down the entire lovely, mature bushes from their lot.
I’ve all the time had a dusk-to-dawn sensor mild on the rear of my home for safety causes and to dissuade raccoons. Now this couple is complaining that as a result of their home is so near my property line and the bushes (which acted as a privateness barrier) are gone, my safety mild of 25 years is shining into their bed room home windows and disturbing them. They need me to do away with it.
In fact, my perspective is that we and that mild have been right here for 25 years. They noticed our home and property traces earlier than they selected to construct there and take away all their bushes.
I’m not inclined to accommodate them, however I’m open to recommendations from you.
— BRIGHT GUY IN OHIO
DEAR BRIGHT GUY: I do have one. Clarify to those new neighbors that your safety mild was put in to discourage trespassers and wild animals. Then recommend they set up blackout curtains or shutters of their bed room home windows to forestall undesirable mild from seeping in.
If that doesn’t resolve the issue, and there’s a governing physique to your rising neighborhood, ask that the matter be mediated.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I’ve two youngsters and work reverse night shifts in order that certainly one of us is residence with the children always.
Just lately, my finest buddy from highschool stunned me with live performance tickets to our favourite band, however the live performance is on an evening I’m presupposed to be with the children.
I don’t have any associates or household round to babysit the youngsters, so I requested my boyfriend if he would take the night time off in order that I can go to this live performance. He informed me the one method he would do that’s if I reimburse him for his missed wages (roughly $300).
Do you assume it’s truthful to cost me to observe his personal youngsters?
— CONFUSED IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR CONFUSED: Must you reimburse your boyfriend for the wages he’ll miss if he takes off work so you may attend that live performance? If his employer doesn’t present for private day off, he will likely be out the cash, and since you’re the one altering your agreed-upon association, it is best to reimburse him.
What the 2 of it’s essential work out sooner or later is a few type of plan so your youngsters will likely be taken care of within the (hopefully unlikely) occasion that one thing ought to occur to each of you on the identical time.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
