DEAR ABBY: I’ve been divorced from my ex-husband, “Paul,” for 20 years. I by no means remarried.
The divorce was largely my fault as a result of I used to be untrue. We by no means tried to avoid wasting our marriage. He instantly began relationship and remarried 18 months later.
We have now remained pals on account of having 4 kids and now grandchildren. I get alongside together with his spouse as nicely.
Through the pandemic, I, together with a grown youngster, moved throughout the nation. Paul and his spouse adopted us. We reside about an hour aside. Because it labored out, three of our 4 youngsters now reside close to us.
During the last two years, I’ve realized that I miss Paul and have hopes of us being collectively once more. He doesn’t know this. I’ve by no means disrespected his marriage or his present spouse in any method.
They’ve a novel relationship as a result of they usually spend time aside and journey to see their households with out one another. I feel additionally they sometimes trip individually. I do know this isn’t essentially a measure of their love or dedication, however my intestine tells me it’s not the wedding they need folks to imagine it’s.
My intestine additionally tells me he could really feel the identical method I do. I usually suppose he needs he had completed extra to assist save our marriage.
Ought to I inform him how I really feel? I’m joyful in my life, however I don’t wish to remorse not talking up if there’s an opportunity we may reunite and be the household I do know God meant us to be. Any recommendation?
— REGRETFUL IN ALABAMA
DEAR REGRETFUL: My goodness, you might be actually having a self-serving dialog with the God it is best to have spoken to earlier than you dedicated adultery and blew up your marriage.
Whereas it might appear uncommon to you, many {couples} go to their households individually, and a few even take quick holidays if their spouses aren’t .
Do your self a favor and search for romance elsewhere. Your ex and his spouse would possibly tremendously recognize it should you did. Please take into account it earlier than probably embarrassing your self.
DEAR ABBY: My husband bought right into a disagreement with our next-door neighbor and now not acknowledges him or speaks to him after we see him exterior.
Our neighbor nonetheless says hi there to me and my special-needs daughter, however my husband doesn’t need me to reply. He says it’s “standing by my man.”
Is my husband proper or incorrect? I’ll observe your recommendation on this state of affairs.
— GOOD NEIGHBOR IN OHIO
DEAR NEIGHBOR: I want you had talked about how severe the disagreement between your husband and this neighbor was. That he needs to contain you on this mess doesn’t appear very “manly” to me.
Do you wish to be used as ammunition? If the reply is not any, and also you would like to maintain relations pleasant (if just for the sake of your daughter), then inform your husband to struggle his personal battle and go away you out of it.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
