DEAR ABBY: I’ve at all times needed to do some unique journey. I’m retired now, however my spouse has medical points. She will nonetheless drive, store, and many others., however worldwide journey could be an excessive amount of for her.
I don’t thoughts touring alone, and I’ve saved up sufficient with such journeys in thoughts. I don’t need to be egocentric, however I need to see components of the world I’ve but to see. What’s honest?
— FUTURE TRAVELER IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR TRAVELER: Luckily, your spouse remains to be considerably unbiased and will handle in your absence. What’s “fair” could be so that you can focus on this together with her and negotiate an settlement that’s acceptable to each of you.
In case your spouse want to journey a bit, maybe you could possibly cut up your financial savings between quick home excursions together with her and solo journeys overseas.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a brother who could be very opinionated and in my face any time I don’t agree with him.
It doesn’t matter what the topic is; he thinks he’s the one one who is aware of something about it. He’s not educated, however he thinks he’s smarter than everybody else, even educated folks.
I believe he’s abusive and has a psychological dysfunction. He has completed nothing in his life. My husband and I’ve careers.
If I attempt to stay quiet round my brother, he begins aggravating me to get a response. He has alienated my household. Nobody desires to be round him. What’s one of the best ways to close him right down to make no matter time now we have to spend collectively extra civil?
— SMART SIS IN MISSISSIPPI
DEAR SIS: No magic components will shut down your abusive, immature and probably mentally unwell brother. Settle for the truth that you possibly can’t change him, and save your sanity by avoiding him as typically as attainable.
DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago requested a pal to cat-sit whereas I used to be out of city for a number of days. We agreed she would cease by each day to feed my kitty, refresh her water and spend somewhat time together with her.
After I returned, I observed a number of indicators that she hadn’t been coming by on daily basis — meals bowls untouched, litter field fuller than it ought to’ve been, and a really lonely (and vocal) cat.
I haven’t confronted my pal but, however I’m harm and disenchanted. I trusted her with my pet’s care. I might have made different preparations had I identified she couldn’t commit.
I don’t need to leap to conclusions, however I additionally really feel I can’t simply brush this off. How do I strategy this dialog with out blowing it out of proportion or damaging the friendship, whereas nonetheless addressing that this wasn’t OK?
— CAT LADY IN MICHIGAN
DEAR CAT LADY: One can solely marvel what else this pal is irresponsible about. Nonetheless, I don’t endorse “taking her to the woodshed.” Sooner or later, whenever you plan to journey, make different preparations for the care of your cat. This particular person was lower than purr-fect.
[Harriette Cole addressed a similar catsitting question in her advice column recently. Here’s what she said.]
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
