DEAR ABBY: What do you consider a scenario by which shut members of the family and shut associates misspell my daughter’s identify?
She is now 22. We just lately celebrated her faculty commencement, and I used to be appalled to see her identify botched on playing cards. This has been performed to her over time.
Her identify sounds just like a extra widespread identify, and I’ve intentionally written her identify out on invites and texts, and many others.
It upsets me, and he or she already struggles instructing others how you can pronounce her identify, not to mention write it correctly. I really feel an absence of care or respect that they don’t take the time to make sure. Am I proper?
— MISSPELLED IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR MISSPELLED: How do these associates and family deal with your daughter? In the event that they deal with her properly, forgive the mutilation of the identify you gave her.
She’s an grownup now, so let her struggle her personal battles any more somewhat than alienate her from people who care about her.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to “Ellis,” a beautiful man, for a yr and a half. This can be a second marriage for every of us.
My older youngsters are on their very own. Ellis has three boys (ages 15, 21 and 23) who dwell with us. The oldest is autistic. My husband and his ex-wife, “Mia,” share joint custody, however our house is the first house.
Mia is meant to have the youngsters two days every week and each different weekend. On her custodial weekdays, now we have the kids come to our home after faculty as a result of she works and the regulation is, if there may be baby care, each dad and mom should pay equally.
Mia takes full benefit of our kindness and normally doesn’t decide the youngsters up till 9 p.m. on her nights. Typically, she doesn’t present up in any respect, which leaves us all hanging.
Ellis refuses to speak to Mia about this as a result of it leads to an argument and he says he can’t make her do something. He additionally received’t return to court docket to make her accountable due to the price and the truth that he doesn’t need the boys to see him take their mom to court docket.
This example is taxing, and Ellis will get upset with me once I inform him he must confront Mia or organize to drop the youngsters off at her work on her days.
I’m exhausted, and that is placing an enormous pressure on our marriage. I’m unsure it would survive if this retains up. Please inform me what to do.
— STRESSED STEPMOM
DEAR STEPMOM: Does your husband understand how strongly you’re feeling about this? You two are overdue for a frank dialog.
As a lot as your husband doesn’t need to spend the cash, the reply to this drawback might lie in a lawyer’s workplace. The truth that Mia doesn’t adhere to the custody settlement might change the sum of money he could also be required to pay her, or vice versa.
Two of their “children” are adults now. Has there been any dialogue about when and if they’ll dwell independently? The youngest is simply a yr away from having the ability to legally drive himself to his mom’s if she will’t decide him up. All the accountability for them shouldn’t be falling on you.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
