DEAR ABBY: I stroll with a cane and have problem standing since I had a nasty accident.
My residence constructing has a laundry facility for all, with two washing machines. Just lately, once I went to do my laundry, one washer was empty and the opposite had a completed load of laundry in it.
The empty one rejected my cost card, so I emptied the opposite individual’s laundry right into a cart so I might use that machine.
That neighbor returned and was upset that I “touched his laundry and didn’t wait for him.” When he demanded an apology, I stated, “Write a note to the board.”
I don’t really feel obligated to show a grown, able-bodied man what entitlement is. Your ideas?
— IN THE WASH IN NEW YORK
DEAR IN THE WASH: Your neighbor is territorial about his issues. Some of us are.
Though he apparently returned in an inexpensive period of time, you had no thought how lengthy he can be, and, as a result of the opposite washer wasn’t working, you had each proper to do what you probably did.
You may need cooled this standoff by giving him the apology he requested for.
You must write a notice to the board, informing them that one of many machines within the laundry room wants servicing.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been pals with one other couple for 15 years.
We might see one another a couple of times every week, alternating between one another’s dwelling and infrequently out to dinner, the place we took turns paying the invoice.
Three years in the past, we purchased our dream dwelling, and since then, our pals have stopped inviting us over to theirs. We’ve got invited them numerous occasions as we take pleasure in their firm, however they’ve stopped reciprocating. They’re additionally much less more likely to decide up the tab after we exit.
As soon as, we went three months with out seeing one another. I needed to see how lengthy it will be till they reached out. They by no means did, so I relented and invited them over. They fortunately accepted the invite, and we had the nice time we at all times do.
We spare no expense on meals, alcohol and desserts once they come over, which we’re blissful to do, however this has turn out to be extraordinarily inequitable. It’s not a matter of cash — they earn the identical quantity as we do.
We’ve got enjoyable collectively, however I’m significantly beginning to resent them for not making an effort towards our friendship.
I’m beginning to marvel if perhaps they aren’t actually good pals and I ought to simply quit, which actually saddens me. Have you ever any recommendation?
— MOVED OUT OF FRIENDSHIP
DEAR MOVED: You acknowledged that for greater than a decade you and this couple lived in properties that had been comparable, till you moved away and upgraded your way of life.
Has it by no means occurred to you that the rationale these pals not invite you to their dwelling could also be as a result of they’re embarrassed concerning the comparability? They is also jealous.
Contemplate telling them you at all times loved visiting them and want to do it once more. Then cross your fingers and hope they’ll take you up on it. You acknowledged that this couple has the identical quantity of revenue that you’ve got, however it’s unwise to depend different individuals’s cash.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
