We’ve got been collectively eight years, and I believed I’d see photographs of us.
They weren’t. They have been photographs of him together with his ex-fiancee, together with his elaborate proposal. The proposal was one thing out of a dream. (He proposed to me on our household room sofa.) I additionally realized her ring is strictly like mine.
I’m so damage. He has by no means been that romantic with me or put a lot thought into my presents. Really, one yr he gave me mattress sheets for Christmas, which I by no means requested.
In the meantime, I’m the one who places effort into his household’s playing cards and presents and helps them with celebrations.
My birthday was this month — I’m eight months pregnant and I had to pick and purchase my very own birthday present as a result of he mentioned he didn’t know what to get me.
Once I let him know the way damage I really feel about all the things, he mentioned, “Let me just go back in time,” and walked away.
I really feel damage, caught and unloved. Am I overreacting?
— CRUSHED IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR CRUSHED: I perceive your disappointment, however my recommendation is to revisit this topic after your little one is born and you’ve got had extra time to consider it.
I don’t know what occurred together with your husband’s prior relationship, but when it had been terrific, it will have lasted.
Not all males are good at planning proposals or selecting playing cards and presents, however typically they make up for it in different methods. Bide your time.
DEAR ABBY: My expensive pal “Sandra” is married with two kids. She and her husband have a 4-year-old son collectively and one other son from her husband’s first marriage who’s 14.
The 14-year-old’s life is hard, very like Cinderella’s. Sandra treats him very badly. She has him doing the entire housekeeping of their house, belittles him consistently and could be very vocal about how a lot she dislikes him. Her 4-year-old can do no improper.
The older boy’s mom has weekends together with her son, however Sandra is open about not liking her both.
I really feel unhealthy about how the boy is handled and need to discuss to Sandra about it, however I don’t know the way to convey up the delicate topic and keep my relationship with the household.
Her husband is totally on Sandra’s facet, so he does nothing to assist the boy have a greater life.
Are you able to supply any recommendation?
— FEELING FOR HIM IN WASHINGTON
DEAR FEELING: Any person has to intervene for that boy.
Why does his uncaring father have custody? May he keep together with his mom full time? Are there some other kinfolk who may take him in? And why would you desire a relationship with a heartless couple who’re so emotionally abusive?
Since you apparently are the one one that cares in any respect about that boy, do some analysis about doable various conditions for him. Nevertheless, if there are none, contact little one protecting providers as a final resort. You gained’t save your friendship with Sandra, however chances are you’ll save that little one.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
