DEAR MISS MANNERS: A couple of months in the past, I met a person on a singles web site and we started relationship. Issues gave the impression to be progressing properly between us till he blurted out that he was married.
He defined that he hoped we might proceed to see one another anyway, as a result of we acquired alongside so properly.
He stated he’d by no means lied to me by telling me he was single, and since I’d by no means requested if he was married, he noticed no want to inform me.
I used to be disgusted, and advised him he had been misleading by being on a singles website within the first place. I advised him he was a foul individual and walked out.
The issue is that he lives in my neighborhood, and I’ve since seen him buying in the identical shops I do, normally alone. To date, he has been too distant or too preoccupied to have seen me.
If we run into one another in some aisle, nonetheless, do I say one thing? Fake I don’t see him? What if he tries to talk to me?
GENTLE READER: You possibly can lower him, in fact, however Miss Manners suggests that you just nod coolly and transfer on.
She hopes that you just wouldn’t have fantasies of denouncing him in entrance of the opposite consumers. It will solely recommend to them that you’re indignant as a result of he jilted you.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I obtained a marriage invitation from a great buddy that started, “Mrs. Sallie Doe and the Late Mr. John Doe request the presence of your company at the marriage of their daughter.”
I used to be torn between amusement and pity. Assuming I couldn’t attend, how would one direct regrets to the Pricey Departed?
Now I’m questioning if the Pricey Departed can be readily available to provide the bride away — which is perhaps a compelling cause to attend. A penny on your ideas?
GENTLE READER: That it’s best to strive very arduous to suppress the amusement and go together with the pity.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: When and the place ought to a girl put on white gloves?
GENTLE READER: These days, in all probability when she is dealing with invaluable antiques, serving on the employees of a really fancy restaurant, or dressing up as Minnie Mouse.
However Miss Manners remembers a time when it was thought-about ladylike to put on brief white cotton gloves in summertime. It was merely a completion earlier than going out in public. This was earlier than individuals began going out in public of their pajamas, exercise garments and unadorned underwear.
It was additionally earlier than these harmless little gloves grew to become symbolic of all of the disadvantages of being a girl, and had been spoken of as in the event that they had been handcuffs.
Maybe you’re referring to over-the-elbow child gloves, worn with full formal costume. These are additionally uncommon these days, as “white tie” is seldom worn. You possibly can see them being mishandled in interval costume dramas, the place consuming and consuming whereas carrying gloves would have tipped off actual individuals of the interval that these characters had been clueless interlopers.
