DEAR HARRIETTE: My sister-in-law invited me to hitch her for her bachelorette journey to the Virgin Islands. Whereas I didn’t need to miss out on a visit to the Caribbean, I used to be slightly hesitant as a result of I actually don’t know any of her pals.
Ultimately, she ended up telling me I might deliver a plus-one if I’d like. I took her up on her provide and invited a pal of mine who had been telling me how a lot she wanted a getaway. Although we’re shut, I had by no means traveled with this pal both … and I don’t suppose I ever will once more.
She put a damper on all the journey. She complained about work, the meals, the warmth, her canine, her co-workers, the sand, the excursions and even her creaky door again at house.
I felt horrible for bringing this darkish cloud to what was alleged to be a fun-filled journey. My sister-in-law reassured me that she nonetheless loved herself, however I really feel terrible! How can I make it as much as her?
— Get together Pooper
DEAR PARTY POOPER: What a drag. It’s good that you just apologized on behalf of your ill-mannered pal. There actually is nothing extra you are able to do.
Your sister-in-law is aware of your regret is heartfelt. Cease bringing it up and let the reminiscence fade.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been residing in my residence for over a 12 months, and I actually like it: the situation, the house, my neighbors and the truth that the lease is so low-cost. The one downside is my landlord.
Each time I submit a upkeep request, it takes weeks for something to get mounted. I’ve had leaky taps, a damaged heater in the midst of winter, and now a dishwasher that hasn’t labored for over a month. Once I comply with up, I both get imprecise responses or get ignored utterly.
I’ve tried to be affected person and well mannered, nevertheless it’s beginning to really feel like my considerations don’t matter. I’ve even provided to search out my very own repairperson and deduct it from lease, however I used to be instructed that’s “not allowed.”
I pay my lease on time each month and have by no means induced any points, so it’s irritating to really feel like I’m being dismissed.
I actually don’t need to jeopardize my lease renewal or come throughout as a “problem tenant,” however that is beginning to have an effect on my consolation and peace of thoughts in a critical method. How can I advocate for myself and push to get these repairs dealt with promptly with out risking my good standing with my landlord or shedding an residence I in any other case love?
— Landlord Considerations
DEAR LANDLORD CONCERNS: Now could be the time to get the assistance of your metropolis. You may name 311 and report your landlord.
Have an inventory helpful of your whole points. Be sure that to articulate your considerations clearly and be capable to show that they haven’t been addressed. Collect any texts or written messages that exist between you and your landlord to function proof of your claims.
Generally tenants can put their lease in an escrow account, that means it doesn’t go to the owner instantly however is withheld and saved in a secure place till repairs are made. Seek the advice of a lawyer earlier than taking that step, nonetheless.
You do have rights. Don’t let your landlord intimidate you. Get assist.
