DEAR HARRIETTE: I just lately organized a shock thirtieth celebration for one in every of my closest mates, and sadly, it changed into a little bit of a catastrophe.
I needed to do one thing particular to mark the event, so I despatched out invites to all of her family and friends, anticipating a fantastic turnout.
Lots of people RSVP’d initially, so I used to be actually enthusiastic about the way it was all coming collectively. I booked a pleasant venue, deliberate the decorations and organized for her favourite meals and drinks.
Nonetheless, because the date acquired nearer, a number of friends began texting me to say they couldn’t make it for numerous causes. I attempted to remain optimistic, considering there would nonetheless be sufficient individuals to make it a enjoyable celebration. However on the precise day, solely 4 individuals confirmed up!
For sure, I used to be crushed. I felt horrible that the social gathering wasn’t what I had hoped for, and I’m afraid my good friend may need been upset, regardless that she didn’t say something.
Now I’m questioning if I ought to discuss to her about it or simply let it go. I don’t need her to assume that I didn’t strive my greatest or that folks didn’t care about celebrating her milestone. Ought to I apologize for the turnout, or ought to I deal with the truth that we nonetheless celebrated with the small group who got here?
— Celebration Fail
DEAR PARTY FAIL: You may inform your good friend that you just hope she loved her birthday shock. Whilst you had anticipated extra friends, you hope that she is aware of how a lot you’re keen on her and that she felt particular at this milestone.
No want to enter element concerning the work you place in, the individuals you invited or anything. That may solely make her really feel unhealthy. Simply deal with the enjoyment of her large day.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My companion and I’ve totally different political opinions, and with the election developing, we’ve been clashing extra typically.
I’m a robust supporter of Kamala Harris and her insurance policies, whereas my companion has a special perspective. We’ve at all times revered one another’s opinions, however recently, our discussions have changed into heated arguments.
I genuinely don’t need our relationship to be affected by politics, however I additionally really feel that these vital conversations shouldn’t be prevented.
How ought to I strategy this? Any recommendation can be nice.
— Political Disagreements
DEAR POLITICAL DISAGREEMENTS: This political season is heated for anybody who cares to take part in it — and that’s good.
In America, now we have the suitable to debate and debate our views. That must also be true in your relationship.
It’s possible you’ll wish to speak about how and once you two can talk about your differing views, establishing boundaries round such risky matters. However it is very important know what every of you believes is vital, what your values are and what you’re prepared to just accept out of your companion.
Loads of {couples} fall on totally different sides of the political fence and are capable of have wholesome bonds, however that’s not at all times true. You need to discover your beliefs and work out in case you are politically suitable — together with the opposite areas the place you mesh.
