DEAR HARRIETTE: I just lately went to see a musical that I had been trying ahead to for months. The theater was packed, and the efficiency was completely superb.
About midway by means of the present, although, I spotted I wanted to make use of the restroom. I attempted to carry it till intermission, however ultimately I simply couldn’t wait any longer. Because the theater was darkish, I fastidiously made my method out of my row, attempting to not disturb anybody. As I used to be strolling down the aisle, I didn’t see a small step within the dim lighting. I misplaced my steadiness, stumbled ahead and fell arduous.
The ache was fast, and as I attempted to face again up, I spotted one thing was severely incorrect with my ankle.
An usher got here to assist me, and I used to be ultimately taken to the foyer, the place workers gave me ice and suggested me to hunt medical consideration.
It seems I sprained my ankle fairly badly. Not solely did I miss the remainder of the present, however I additionally needed to hobble round in ache for days afterward.
The theater didn’t do anything for me in any respect, and I can’t assist however surprise if legally or morally they need to have completed extra. Am I simply being entitled?
— Slip-Up
DEAR SLIP-UP: The theater really did do one thing for you: You mentioned they helped you instantly and gave you steering.
It’s comprehensible that you’re annoyed, however don’t take your emotions out on them. Sadly, you selected to stand up and stroll round at nighttime. What occurred is your duty, not theirs.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I’ve seen that I don’t get pleasure from going out with my pals as a lot as I used to.
A 12 months in the past, I might have jumped on the probability to seize drinks, go to events or keep out late simply to have enjoyable and socialize. Now, nonetheless, once they invite me out, I usually discover myself making excuses or feeling relieved when plans fall by means of.
It’s not that I don’t like my pals — I nonetheless care about them, however I simply don’t really feel the identical pleasure about going out anymore.
At first, I assumed possibly I used to be simply drained or going by means of a section, however this sense has been constant for some time now.
I don’t essentially suppose this variation is a nasty factor, however on the similar time, I notice that I’ve eradicated one thing from my life that was once a enjoyable outlet for me. Going out gave me a break from stress, let me unwind and helped me really feel linked to individuals.
Now that I don’t do it as a lot, I fear that I’m isolating myself or that I would ultimately lose contact with my pals altogether.
How do I regulate to this variation with out feeling like I’m lacking out or distancing myself from the individuals I care about?
— Remoted
DEAR ISOLATED: Invite your folks to do different issues with you. Host a cocktail get together at your own home. Name on pals individually to verify in.
It’s OK to evolve. If you wish to hold all or simply a few of your folks, work out new methods to remain in contact.
