DEAR ABBY: My neighbors, throughout the road and two doorways down, have 5 vehicles. 4 are parked on the road.
One is continually parked proper in entrance of our home, which isn’t even instantly throughout the road from theirs. The road instantly throughout from their home is at all times empty.
I’ve requested them kindly with politely worded notes on the windshield to please not park in entrance of our home. Though it’s a public road, I don’t suppose it’s a neighborly factor to do.
Was I fallacious to request they cease this observe?
— TERRITORIAL IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR TERRITORIAL: As a result of parking their automotive in entrance of your home bothers you, you had each proper to make your emotions identified and ask them to cease. I additionally agree that their persevering with to do that after you requested them to cease was the alternative of “neighborly.”
Nevertheless, except they’re violating parking laws in your neighborhood, there may be nothing you are able to do to pressure them to cease. Sorry.
DEAR ABBY: On his second day of labor, a brand new co-worker from a unique division stole my sweet bar.
I confronted him, however he had already eaten it. Everybody was gazing me as I scolded him.
He later returned to my division and threw a complete of $21.62 at me. Earlier than he threw it at my face, I had informed him he didn’t want to provide me any cash.
His supervisor later spoke to me defending what he did! He mentioned he was a “nice boy” and that I used to be out of line to scold him in entrance of everybody.
Abby, who was fallacious right here? What ought to I do since work is now so awkward? I by no means obtained my sweet again, however I did get $21.62.
— NOT PROFESSIONAL IN THE EAST
DEAR NOT: Communicate to your “nice” co-worker privately and see when you can clear the air. Inform him the cash you spent on the sweet wasn’t what bothered you; it was that he took one thing that didn’t belong to him.
Then return the money he threw at you after deducting the price of the sweet bar.
P.S. His supervisor is mistaken. That “nice boy” has an entitled perspective and sticky fingers.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 65, single and retired with an almost-40-year-old bipolar youngster.
Though she’s compliant along with her meds, she additionally self-medicates and generally have to be hospitalized attributable to her mania. She doesn’t work and refuses to use for any support.
I’ve stopped paying for her wants aside from meals, shelter and serving to financially along with her canine.
Final time, earlier than her anticipated launch, my circumstances had been easy — be medication-compliant, clear up after herself and the canine, and no medication or alcohol in my home. I’ve given her three months to search out employment. If these circumstances aren’t met, I’m bracing myself to not home her.
I actually want to have my very own life. When is all of it proper to push a child out of the nest?
— ENOUGH ALREADY IN NEW YORK
DEAR ENOUGH: By now it is best to understand that you’ll have been enabling your daughter fairly than serving to her as you meant.
If she’s unwilling to observe your guidelines, assert your self now. You may have handed the purpose at which you have to be dwelling your personal life.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
