DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I are in our 80s, married for 61 years. We’re financially well-off and have few medical points.
As we method our departure from this Earth, we’ve created the required authorized paperwork to distribute our property. So, what’s the issue? My partner is a “collector.”
We have now great china settings, sterling silver and delightful linens. At one time, we set a wonderful desk. Immediately, outdated age has caught up with us. Most of these invitees are gone. However my partner and I live like we did 50 years in the past, and it’s getting on my nerves.
No person desires our stuff! It’s time to divest ourselves of possessions that any person else may need an curiosity in and get them off our arms.
My partner refuses to half with something. There’s all the time an excuse to maintain the litter.
I noticed this in my mother and father many years in the past. If it got here within the entrance door, it didn’t exit once more.
Why are folks so hooked on issues, and what might be achieved to alleviate my nervousness?
— READY TO LET GO IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR READY: Think about this: Each piece of china and crystal, each sample of silverware and all of the equipment that folks used to suppose had been essential to create a wonderful house (and life), have treasured recollections hooked up.
The place you see litter, your spouse sees the comfortable years spent buying it and entertaining.
As a result of these things are now not getting used, they may very well be boxed up “just in case” they’re wanted once more. {Photograph} them so you have got a report of what they’re, and talk about together with your spouse presumably donating them to a charity thrift retailer.
While you’re appropriate that younger folks at the moment aren’t as avid about formal entertaining as members of your era had been, there are nonetheless folks round who acknowledge high quality and worth who could be involved in having a few of it.
As to your nervousness, talk about this together with your physician and, if mandatory, ask for a referral to a therapist for some counseling.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a beautiful, clever 19-year-old daughter. She’s a junior in faculty in one other metropolis.
She has all the time been extraordinarily skinny. We have now taken her to medical doctors to handle this. They found a vitamin deficiency and urged she eat extra nutritious meals with nutritional vitamins prescribed.
My query is, is it OK to push meals on her after her barely eaten meals? She will get full instantly and doesn’t all the time take her nutritional vitamins. I don’t need her to distance herself from me by insisting she eat extra.
— MOTHERING MOTHER IN TEXAS
DEAR MOTHER: I don’t advocate that you simply “push” meals in your daughter. When you do, it could trigger her to insurgent.
I do, nonetheless, suppose it could be a good suggestion for you to do a little analysis about consuming problems, as a result of your daughter might have one.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
