DEAR ABBY: I’ve lately found that my mother-in-law has two life insurance coverage insurance policies on me, neither of which I knew about, and one in every of which is shut to twenty years outdated.
I by no means requested nor licensed her to take out these insurance policies, and I’m very involved.
We would not have an excellent relationship. She isn’t welcome in my life or our house as a result of she is disrespectful and meddlesome. My husband has little or no to do together with her however doesn’t appear to be bothered by the truth that she took it upon herself to get these insurance policies.
As a result of she sells insurance coverage, she makes it look like it’s no massive deal, however it’s to me.
I’ve my very own insurance coverage and have for all of my grownup life (I’m nearing 50), and I’m appalled on the concept of her gathering a payout from my demise. She has by no means supplied us a duplicate of the insurance policies, nor do we all know who the beneficiaries are. The truth is, we all know of their existence solely as a result of she let it slip in a dialog once we advised her that, as a result of she is so impolite and disrespectful, we’re limiting our contact together with her.
Am I loopy, or are my considerations justified? Is it even authorized for her to have these? Why is she wagering on my dying earlier than her?
— LIFE INSURED IN NEVADA
DEAR LIFE INSURED: You have got my sympathy. Your mother-in-law seems to be a handful.
Focus on this with your individual insurance coverage agent. Clarify what you could have realized and ask whether or not what your mother-in-law has performed is authorized, as a result of it is probably not. That she is within the insurance coverage enterprise makes this even worse.
That you just grew to become conscious of this data throughout an “unpleasant” dialog strikes me as doable retaliation for telling her one thing she didn’t need to hear. She might even be mendacity about it.
Your insurance coverage agent can clarify what treatments may be taken to right this whether it is true. If she is a licensed dealer who has performed one thing unlawful, she may lose her license.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been alienated from my daughter, “Bonnie,” for 30 years. Her mom and I divorced, and I remarried. Bonnie was in her late teenagers and early 20s on the time.
For a time, she lived with me, my new spouse and my spouse’s daughter. Bonnie was an absolute “queen” and thought we should always defer to her each want. She supplied no assist round the home and paid no lease.
I lastly requested her to go away. It was both get her out of the home or lose my new spouse.
Later, Bonnie married and requested me to come back to her marriage ceremony however not carry my spouse. I advised her, “Sorry, I won’t be there.” She was offended at me for it and nonetheless is, in keeping with her brother.
I’ve written her off however have been inspired by a good friend to try to reconnect together with her.
I feel Bonnie has a grudge, and it will be ineffective to aim reconciliation and open myself as much as extra ache from being round her. I feel she’s caught in what occurred 30 years in the past and isn’t about to let go. Your opinion, please?
— DEJECTED DAD IN OREGON
DEAR DAD: Has this good friend or Bonnie’s brother given you any impression that Bonnie wish to reconcile with you and your spouse? If the reply is sure, give it a attempt. If not, let sleeping canines lie.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
