Pricey Eric: My accomplice and I plan to host our wedding ceremony in our dwelling state (throughout the nation from the place we dwell now) since most of our household is there and it makes extra logistical sense.
Somewhat than invite our pals in our new state, we thought it’d be enjoyable to have a separate social gathering for them right here, which will even preserve prices for the true wedding ceremony down. We additionally don’t wish to put a journey burden on individuals.
Would it not be cheesy to show images from the “real” wedding ceremony on the second social gathering? I don’t need individuals to really feel overlooked nevertheless it looks like the most effective resolution to “include” everybody.
– Double I Do’s
Pricey Double: Supplied you don’t label the images “Pics from Our Real Wedding,” your thought is a beautiful gesture.
Pals of mine had three celebrations for his or her wedding ceremony, every with pals and family in several states. They have been distinctive gatherings that served as a testomony to the far attain of my pals’ connections. We have been excited to see what they obtained as much as within the different locales.
You would possibly even wish to embody details about each weddings in your wedding ceremony web site, with hyperlinks for people to see images from each occasions. This manner everybody understands the intention and feels included in a single huge, multistate, multipart celebration. Congrats and have twice the enjoyable.
Pricey Eric: I’ve rented a room in my dwelling to a lady for the previous yr. Her funds are restricted. I cost her $400 per 30 days versus the going charge in my space of $1,000.
Per the rental settlement, I pay two-thirds of the utility invoice, and he or she pays one-third.
She spent this previous summer season visiting household. When she returned, she advised me she wouldn’t pay any of the utility invoice for the time she was away as a result of she “was not here.”
I don’t like confrontations, so I let it go. However I discover my opinion of her character has turn out to be considerably damaging. Am I unsuitable on this?
– Billing Inquiry
Pricey Billing: This appears extra of a communication problem than a personality concern.
She ought to have mentioned her plan with you earlier than leaving, not after, however I can see her logic – why pay for utilities she didn’t use? Presumably the invoice was decrease anyway.
Moreover, as you famous, her funds are tight, so she might have shifted a few of the budgeted utility expense over to her journey fund.
If you’d like her to pay a share of the utilities it doesn’t matter what, you must say so up entrance. Or make utilities included, since presumably most of her lease cost is revenue.
Nevertheless, I’d warning in opposition to nickel-and-diming this concern. In spite of everything, your query was not about cash however character, so I’m assuming the fee for the utilities you used wasn’t a hardship to you. Your time and hers could be higher spent having a dialog about expectations going ahead.
Pricey Eric: I learn the column from “Invisible Dad,” who felt overlooked of his household life. I’ve a suggestion.
It was a beautiful approach for our far-flung household to remain in contact, so I hope this is likely to be one thing that might not solely brighten Invisible Dad’s life however would additionally assist the remainder of his household keep in higher contact. And better of all, it might be an effective way to contain him extra along with his household.
I’d additionally recommend recording interviews with members of the family. I’ve discovered them to be invaluable paperwork of each historical past and feeling and they are often accomplished proper in your telephone.
Pricey Readers: Irrespective of the way you’re spending time this weekend, I hope you’ll take the chance to achieve out to somebody significant in your life, be it by telephone or in individual, and allow them to know you’re grateful for them. I’m grateful to spend this time with you every single day.
