DEAR ABBY: My son and his spouse have been married for 3 years and have an 8-month-old son. She stays dwelling to look after the infant. My son works from dwelling as effectively.
He has now taken a second job to make ends meet, so three days every week he works 7 a.m. to three p.m. after which leaves at 5 p.m. and returns dwelling at 11 p.m.
His spouse believes in co-sleeping, which implies she sleeps within the mattress with the infant, whereas my son sleeps on a mattress on the ground. This has been happening because the little one was born. My son additionally does 80% of the cooking.
They dwell a thousand miles away, so I can’t assist. He’s nearly her slave. I don’t need to say something, however I would really like their marriage to final. What ought to I do?
— CONCERNED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CONCERNED: The very last thing you should do is intervene. Until your son complains to you in regards to the association, keep out of it. If the state of affairs turns into insupportable, your son will take care of it.
DEAR ABBY: Our pal “Carrie” revealed to our shut pal group that for the previous couple of years she has been having an affair with the husband of her greatest pal, “Julia.”
Their children are greatest buddies, and so they spend quite a lot of time collectively, even taking joint holidays.
Now we have instructed Carrie many occasions how this may have an effect on the youngsters, which she acknowledges, however the affair continues.
This soiled secret is changing into more and more troublesome to maintain as a result of we love Julia, however no person desires to be the messenger. Ought to we inform Julia, or wait till it inevitably comes out?
— ROTTEN IN RHODE ISLAND
DEAR ROTTEN: Are you positive Julia is aware of nothing in regards to the affair and hasn’t chosen to disregard it?
Julia has kids who nonetheless dwell at dwelling. If you happen to spill the beans, what is going to it do to the intact life-style they presumably take pleasure in?
If you happen to desire to not hear any extra about Carrie’s hijinks, inform her you don’t need to know any extra. However I vote for preserving your mouth shut with regards to making the revelations.
DEAR ABBY: It’s been 5 years since my place as professor at a small graduate faculty ended. I used to be compelled out after 30 years of instructing, and two years wanting my introduced retirement date.
I did nothing unsuitable. The explanations given had been imprecise.
Being disadvantaged of a stable rationalization harm me deeply. There was no severance pay and no advantages. I misplaced a considerable quantity of earnings at a vital level in my life, however nobody appeared to offer {that a} thought.
For a very long time, I used to be heartsick. I can’t but discover it in myself to forgive the dean and the president of the college. However in some way, I really feel I ought to.
How do I get unstuck? I’ve really moved on in some ways, however I simply can’t forgive.
— HURTING STILL
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
