As Britney Spears responded to Kevin Federline’s alarming portrait of her psychological state and alleged drug use in his new memoir, she stated her younger grownup sons ought to “take responsibility” for the “complex” relationship she has with them and the truth that she has not seen a lot of them up to now 5 years, saying the scenario has left her “demoralized.”
“I have always pleaded and screamed to have a life with my boys,” Spears posted on Instagram and X Wednesday evening. She was referring to the sons, Sean Preston, 20, and Jayden James, 19. “I have felt demoralized by this situation and asked and almost begged for them to be a part of my life.”
The beleaguered 43-year-old pop star stated that relationships “with teenage boys is complex.” She lamented that she has seen one son for under 45 minutes up to now 5 years, whereas she has solely seen the opposite for 4 visits throughout the identical time interval. “They need to take responsibility for themselves,” Spears stated. “I have pride too. From now on, I will let me know when I am available.”
Lately, Spears has expressed curiosity in repairing her relationship together with her sons and has revealed social media posts about them spending time collectively. However by her personal admission, that point collectively has been fairly restricted.
WESTWOOD, CA – JULY 28: Singer Britney Spears and Sean Federline attend the premiere of Columbia Photos’ ‘Smurfs 2’ at Regency Village Theatre on July 28, 2013 in Westwood, California. (Picture by Jason Merritt/Getty Pictures)
Spears’ emotional, offended assertion additionally accused Federline of “gaslighting her” and comes the day after the New York Occasions first shared some disturbing allegations about her conduct, that are coming in his memoir, “You Thought You Knew.,” out on Oct. 21.
An preliminary headline-grabbing allegation has to do with why Sean Preston and Jayden James had been supposedly cautious of being round their mom.
“They would awaken sometimes at night to find her standing silently in the doorway, watching them sleep — ‘Oh, you’re awake?’ — with a knife in her hand,” Federline writes, in response to the New York Occasions. “Then she’d turn around and pad off without explanation.”
However a brand new allegation from the e-book surfaced Thursday about Spears’ parenting — that she allegedly did cocaine whereas she was nonetheless breastfeeding her sons, Us Weekly reported. Federline writes how he walked in on Spears and a younger actress pal doing cocaine on the 2006 launch social gathering for his album, “Playing With Fire.” Their sons had been 13 months and 1 month outdated on the time, and Federline requested her to not go residence and nurse them. An allegedly offended Spears threw a cocktail in his face.
LOS ANGELES, CA – APRIL 17: On this handout photograph supplied by the LA Dodgers, Britney Spears poses with sons Sean Preston Federline (L) and Jayden James Federline (R) throughout agame towards the San Diego Padres at Dodger Stadium on April 17, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Picture by Jon SooHoo/LA Dodgers through Getty Pictures)
“That was the proverbial final straw, the breast-feeding thing. Her reaction,” he writes, Us Weekly reported. “That’s what ended us.” After Federline requested his lawyer to draft a authorized letter, demanding she cease breast-feeding them, Spears responded by having her lawyer draft divorce papers.
Federline advised the New York Occasions that he was by no means “against” his ex-wife, and he solely ever wished her to have an “incredible relationship” with their sons, however her allegedly erratic conduct made them not wish to keep at her home.
For the previous backup dancer, the e-book additionally serves as his solution to sound the alarm about his ex-wife’s psychological well being — when there’s not the form of oversight that was supplied by a strict conservatorship {that a} Los Angeles decide terminated in 2021.
“It’s become impossible to pretend everything’s OK,” Federline writes in his e-book, although he acknowledged to the New York Occasions that he has not spoken to his ex-wife in years. “From where I sit, the clock is ticking, and we’re getting close to the 11th hour. Something bad is going to happen if things don’t change, and my biggest fear is that our sons will be left holding the pieces.”
Federline’s e-book additionally has grabbed headlines for alleging that Spears cheated on him with a girl early of their relationship, whereas they had been on tour in Amsterdam, in response to Individuals. It additionally alleges that she was utilizing medicine and alcohol and liable to offended outbursts close to the top of their marriage, the New York Occasions reported.
Federline, a self-described “teen knucklehead” from Fresno, started courting Spears in 2004 after she had turn out to be a pop celebrity with hits like “Baby One More Time” and “Oops! … I Did It Again.” They wed that very same yr however their marriage instantly confronted intense media scrutiny, as they welcomed two youngsters and as Spears’ private issues started to emerge.
They had been solely married for 2 years earlier than Spears filed for divorce, and the 2 fought a bitter battle over custody. Throughout that point, Spears went into rehab however checked herself out the following day. Federline’s e-book particulars the “bizarre” moments main as much as her infamously shaving her head at a salon close to their household residence. After Spears checked herself out of rehab, she turned up outdoors the house, ringing the bell to the gate, “shouting things that didn’t make sense” and demanding to be let in, Federaline writes, in response to Web page Six.
On the time, the boys had been 2 and 1, and Federline didn’t suppose they need to see their mom on this situation, Web page Six reported. “Then she started climbing the front gate,” he provides. “I stayed inside with the kids, trying to keep things calm.”
Federaline’s e-book additionally describes the night in early January 2008 when Spears was rushed to Cedars-Sinai Medical Heart and positioned below a 72-hour involuntary psychiatric maintain following a three-hour standoff involving their youngsters, the New York Occasions reported.
“It was one of the hardest nights of my life,” Federline writes, in response to the Occasions. “I felt sick over what she was going through. This was someone I had loved. Someone I had built a life with. The mother of my children.”
Quickly thereafter, Spears was positioned below a controversial conservatorship, managed by her father, Jamie Spears, which allowed him to supervise her private {and professional} funds and her medical care. A Los Angeles decide terminated the conservatorship in 2021,
In her social media assertion, Spears rejected Federline’s “white lies” in his e-book and the picture of herself as an erratic mom, saying, “I will always love them.” She additionally stated: “If you really know me, you won’t pay attention to the tabloids of my mental health and drinking. I am actually a pretty intelligent woman who has been trying to live a sacred and private life the past years. I speak on this because I have had enough and any real woman would do the same.”
A spokesperson for Spears additionally issued a press release, accusing Federline and others of “profiting off her.” The spokesperson famous that the e-book “sadly … comes out after child support has ended with Kevin.” The spokesperson furthermore reminded the general public that Spears has detailed her private journey in her 2023 memoir, “The Woman in Me,” which is being made right into a film. In that e-book, Spears disputed that she ever had important substance abuse points and characterised her custody battle with Federline as traumatizing, the New York Occasions stated.
“All she cares about are her kids, Sean Preston and Jayden James, and their well-being during this sensationalism,” Spears spokesperson stated.
Initially Revealed: October 16, 2025 at 8:01 AM PDT
