DEAR ABBY: I’m a 19-year-old man and reside with my dad and mom. We have now this neighbor, “Ed,” who, till lately, was pals with my dad.
We’ve frolicked with him a number of instances and have even gone over to one another’s homes to observe sports activities video games and eat dinner.
The issue is, Ed has turn out to be very overbearing and unusual. He has at all times been a little bit off the wall, which, at first, we each discovered hilarious. However since then, his foul language and vulgarities have rubbed us the mistaken means.
He’s disrespectful to his spouse and son, which I do know isn’t my enterprise, however Dad and I are over it.
Currently, Ed has been always calling and texting my dad. Now he has began texting me asking why my father isn’t responding. I don’t understand how he received my quantity. Final month, Ed walked into our home by means of our sliding glass door whereas I used to be dwelling alone watching TV.
Dad appears to wish to simply ignore the problem, however I feel it’s the mistaken transfer. Ought to I method this nosy and indignant neighbor?
— UNEASY IN ILLINOIS
DEAR UNEASY: No, you shouldn’t. Hold that sliding glass door locked.
And, if you happen to obtain any extra texts from this man, block him. You aren’t required to debate your father’s or your change in angle with him.
DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old niece is getting married in 4 months.
5 years in the past, she misplaced her father in a tragic accident whereas her dad and mom have been on trip. Since that point, she has come out as homosexual and grown nearer to me than to her mother (my sister).
I used to be at all times near my sister and each of her daughters whereas they have been rising up and helped out financially when instances have been robust. My sister lately remarried and plans to maneuver to a different state together with her new husband previous to the marriage.
My niece has requested me to stroll her down the aisle together with my sister. My sister mentioned it’s disrespectful to her since she is the mom.
I don’t wish to harm my sister or my niece. My niece says it’s each of us or neither one. (There aren’t any grandparents.) I advised her I wish to sit with my husband for the marriage and that her mother ought to stroll her down the aisle.
The opposite bride’s dad and mom will likely be strolling their daughter down the aisle.
I do know it’s my niece’s marriage ceremony and he or she ought to have what she desires, however I really feel caught within the center.
Any options?
— TORN IN TWO IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR TORN: I do have one.
You might have already advised your niece you would favor to take a seat along with your husband moderately than trigger resentment out of your sister. Your niece feels strongly about having you stroll together with her, and it’s her marriage ceremony.
You would possibly counsel strolling her midway down the aisle after which handing her off to her mom. However depart the ultimate resolution the place it belongs — which is with the bride.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
