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Harriette Cole: My pal is so secretive about her life that it hurts my emotions

Editorial Board Published June 23, 2025
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DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve a pal who’s extremely secretive about virtually every thing occurring in her life.

If she’s interviewing for a brand new job, I received’t hear a phrase about it till she’s already acquired and accepted the supply. If she’s seeing somebody new, I don’t discover out till they’ve been relationship for months and issues are already critical.

Even with small life updates, like a visit she’s planning or one thing annoying she’s coping with, she retains all of it to herself till it’s gone or totally resolved.

It’s beginning to make me really feel like I’m probably not an in depth pal to her, although I’ve all the time been open and weak together with her about my very own life.

It’s beginning to make me really feel like I’m probably not an in depth pal to her, although I’ve all the time been open and weak together with her about my very own life.

I’m pleased for her successes and I’d like to assist her via challenges, however she shuts me out and lets me in solely when it’s handy or when she decides I’ve “earned” the suitable to know.

It’s not about needing to know each element, however I can’t assist however really feel just a little damage and excluded, like she doesn’t belief me or worth our friendship.

I’m torn between letting it go and accepting that she’s only a non-public particular person, or saying one thing and risking making her uncomfortable. How do I carry this up with out coming off as needy or overly delicate?

— Clueless

DEAR CLUELESS: It might be that your pal is extraordinarily insecure and feels that she doesn’t measure as much as you. Which may be why she doesn’t need you to know any particulars about her life till they’re strong. Acknowledge that that is her drawback.

You possibly can inform her what you could have seen and the way her secretiveness hurts your emotions. You too can determine to cease sharing all your life together with her if she is unwilling to share hers.

DEAR HARRIETTE: My condominium lease ends in late July, and some of my roommates have already moved out.

Whereas I admire that they cleaned out their particular person rooms properly, they left a ton of their undesirable belongings scattered all through the frequent areas, and so they deserted random kitchen objects, meals and issues they clearly didn’t need to take care of.

Now I’m caught eliminating every thing, and it feels extremely unfair that the cleanup has fallen on me simply because I’m the final one right here.

On prime of that, they used up most of our shared home items like dish cleaning soap, bathroom paper and paper towels earlier than they left. I used to be the final one to restock these objects a couple of weeks in the past, and now that every thing’s gone, I’m the one who has to pay for every thing once more simply to get via the subsequent couple of weeks.

I really feel used and just a little resentful, however I’m additionally undecided easy methods to carry this up or if it’s even price saying something now that they’re gone.

Ought to I ask them to Venmo me for cleansing up after them and having to restock every thing? How do I take care of this case with out letting my frustration eat away at me?

— Sucker

DEAR SUCKER: Ask your roommates to ship you some cash to cowl your further bills and work on their behalf. Don’t anticipate to get it from everybody. Don’t maintain a grudge both. Maintain it shifting.

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