DEAR ABBY: My brother’s daughter “Alyssa,” an solely baby, is on the kidney transplant checklist.
My brother and I haven’t spoken for 10 years, primarily due to how poorly he handled our late mother and father.
After I had my DNA examined, I realized that he had fathered one other baby. The knowledge and info this lady (“Bree”) has supplied ring true and are very plausible. I’ve little doubt Bree is his daughter.
She had some questions associated to well being points as a result of she has kids of her personal.
Sadly, my irresponsible brother turned his again on her, and he or she doesn’t wish to pursue a relationship with him or with me.
Ought to I proceed to honor her request, or inform her about her half-sister who wants the transplant?
— INVOLVED AUNT IN FLORIDA
DEAR AUNT: For those who assume it’d assist Alyssa, inform Bree about Alyssa’s want for a kidney transplant. There’s, nevertheless, no assure that Bree’s kidney can be a match.
Don’t be stunned if Bree responds negatively (or under no circumstances), contemplating her lack of a relationship together with her father or the remainder of your loved ones. I want you luck in your search.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a textual content relationship for almost a yr. I name it a textual content relationship as a result of we talk solely by means of texting.
As a result of I’m not a video chat particular person, it doesn’t hassle me that we don’t Zoom. Moreover, the few occasions he has tried to contact me by way of video, we simply don’t appear to attach.
Although our communication is strictly by way of textual content, we’ve fashioned this bond the place we’re very in tune with each other. He is aware of once I’m joyful or unhappy and want cheering up, and vice versa. All of the issues you would need in a relationship, we appear to have.
He travels so much due to his job, so I don’t see him in particular person. Once more, that’s not an issue for me.
My downside is, though he has far more cash than I’ll ever have, he usually asks me to ship him cash principally to play video games whereas he’s away. I begin out by saying I can’t assist, however then I give in.
By the best way, I by no means ask him for something. I’m not a “gimme” lady. I’ll discover a technique to get it myself.
It’s starting (I suppose it all the time has) to hassle me that he asks me for cash (he doesn’t ask for anything). I don’t know the way to inform him I want he wouldn’t do this and to ask considered one of his wealthy buddies as an alternative.
How can I rectify this dilemma I’ve created for myself?
— UNEASY IN MARYLAND
DEAR UNEASY: If you’re asking sincerely the way to rectify this unlucky scenario, cease texting him and don’t ship him one other penny!
For those who observe this recommendation, I promise this gamer will disappear like a wisp of smoke as soon as he realizes the cash tree has wilted. You’ve been had, my pricey. I hope it wasn’t for greater than you would afford.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
